She Presents Well, and Apparently I’m the Problem
“She presents well” sounds reassuring until everyone leaves and the caregiver inherits the rage, fear, confusion, and fallout. Dazey shares the brutal reality of medical advocacy, informed consent, and protecting someone whose Alzheimer’s can hide behind an Oscar-worthy performance.
Dazey’s last post until the book
Every decision near the end feels impossibly heavy. When Alzheimer’s, a growing duodenal mass, conflicting medical opinions, and family chaos collide, advocating for quality of life becomes the caregiver’s most heartbreaking responsibility.
Not Everything Is As It Seems: Caregiving Behind Closed Doors
Advice from nine years of experience: Make decisions and stick to your boundaries. When the outside world interferes with your primary goals of safety and well-being, be decisive and direct—honest and blunt. Find the solutions that best support the journey you are on, and remain firm in your singular goal: peace and kindness for the one in need.
If I Don’t Remember, It Never Happened: Real Talk From an Alzheimer’s Caregiver
Alzheimer’s isn’t just lost keys and sweet forgetfulness—it’s loops, F‑bombs, tooth conspiracies, and a Bubble where feelings last even when memories don’t. From being called a narcissist to negotiating with imaginary dental work, I’m sharing the unfiltered, sweary truth of what it’s really like inside our Alzheimer’s Bubble. If you’re a caregiver riding your own Loop, this is your permission slip to stop aiming for perfect and start aiming for humane.
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