Spectator Survival Guide

This Shit Is Bananas is my unfiltered field report from inside 24/7 Alzheimer’s care—no pastel platitudes, no “she seemed fine when I saw her” denial. From the first shock of the Alzheimer’s bubble to the gaslighting, blowback, burnout, and the way “strong” caregivers disappear in plain sight, this series names what’s really happening behind closed doors—and what spectators are doing (or not doing) that makes it worse. If you’ve ever wondered what it actually costs to hold someone’s whole reality together while everyone else watches the highlight reel, start here.